This past month I’ve found myself thrust once more into the beastly arms of grief. Wasn’t I just here this time last year? Why now? Why me? Why again so soon?, I’ve often asked myself (and, to be honest, my mom during our many phone calls. Thanks, Mom).
As I ask myself these “Why’s,” I’m remembering a story about Zen master Suzuki Roshi and one of his students who came to him crying, deeply in pain.
His student yelled out to him, “Why is there so much suffering?!”
“No reason,” Suzuki Roshi replied.
As I look around me, I see so many of us suffering from loss. For, you got it, no reason– other than that we’re all human; and sickness, suffering, and death are the dues we pay for our time here.
My teacher in yoga class this morning lost his mom unexpectedly two weeks ago. One of my family members is weathering a painful recovery from intensive cancer treatments. My sister’s friend discovered her five-month-old baby died of SIDS the other week.
Heartbreak is everywhere. And, yet, when we’re blessed enough to be walking on the sunny side of the street, we don’t notice it. We try not to think about it, don’t like to talk about it, and certainly don’t want to feel it. Because nothing— NOTHING— feels worse than our own hearts breaking.
Why is it that heartbreak is so universal, yet so taboo?
This is something I want to shift— along with your help— in the weeks ahead with…..
One of the things I’ve learned through weathering a lot of intense heartbreak over the last year-and-a-half is that a sense of humor is essential. I can feel the Universe winking at me for the timing of what I’m about to share with you!
While this has been in the works for the past several months, I had no clue that right before sharing it, I would learn a deeper dimension of grief than I have ever known.
Over the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing a series of intimate interviews with women who have suffered intense heartbreak — and come out the other side stronger than ever.
From growing older to the sudden death of a beloved, from baby loss to divorce and the loss of a parent, these brave women will open up about some of the toughest chapters of their lives — and exactly what they did to be transformed by them, on every level.
I look forward to sharing The Heartbreak Diaries podcast series with you next week.
And beyond being a safe space to speak up and share our losses (and being incredibly therapeutic for me to create), this series has another purpose, too.
The Heartbreak Diaries honors the opening of a new course I’ve been creating for the past year…. Healing from Heartbreak: Transform through the Wild Wisdom of Grief.
This gentle, guided 4-week Heroine’s Journey is the exact course I wish I’d had during my own heartbreaks. It helps us heal, and grow into more human and honest versions of ourselves, with the community, support, and tools we need to make it through our darkest days.
As I’ve learned to befriend— rather than fear— my grief over this past couple of years, I’ve discovered that weathering it well requires a truly intensive, integrative approach.
That’s why I’ve poured everything I’ve got into this course: spiritual self-care, sisterhood, mentorship, Buddhist teachings, tools for emotional resilience, rituals, and empowered life visioning principles and practices.
I’ll touch in with you again next week to share more about what Healing from Heartbreak includes, feels like, and can do for you.
Until then, get your tissues ready for The Heartbreak Diaries… starting in just a handful days.
Thank you for being here and having the courage to explore the ups and downs of all it means to be a woman (with a big, beautiful, vulnerable, and resilient heart).