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Are Rituals Your New Rules?

On a sunny, spring morning when I was nine, my three sisters and I piled into the back of our Pontiac station wagon. I sat in the way-way back, slipping from one end of the tan, leather seat to the other every time we rounded a sharp corner.

My father commanded the wheel, steering our family caravan from Connecticut down to Pennsylvania. We were on our way to visit his Uncle Bill– a father figure to my papa who had recently moved into a nursing home.

When we arrived, my father herded us all into the dining room to eat lunch with Uncle Bill. An infamous “picky eater” in my family, I scoured the menu and couldn’t find a thing I wanted to eat. Everything smelled strange in there, and I knew the food would taste even stranger. So I settled on my favorite last resort: a peanut butter sandwich with the crust cut off.

Twenty minutes later, when the server placed my meal in front of me– white bread on a white plate– I knew I wasn’t going to eat it. I could tell just by looking at it that it was the kind of bread that tasted stale and the kind of peanut butter that tasted slimy and sour. Yet I also knew that if I didn’t eat it, I was going to be in big trouble.

So I pretended to eat it. I chewed a bite, lifted my napkin to my mouth, and spit it into its folds. Bite by bite, until, voilà! All gone!

Do you ever feel like you’re doing the grown up version of this? Like you’re going through the motions and, from the outside, it looks like you’re doing something, but you’re actually not?

If you’re willing to get really honest with yourself, you’ll see that there’s at least one place in your life where you’re doing the equivalent of chewing your peanut butter sandwich and then spitting it out in your napkin.

Maybe you’re checking emails, writing blog posts, and posting on Facebook; but you’re not signing on any new clients.

Or maybe you’re lighting candles, burning incense, and reading books about meditation; but you’re not actually sitting down to meditate.

Externally, you look successful and put together; but, inside, you know you’re really hiding. Deep down, you don’t want others to really see you; and, most of all, you don’t really want to see yourself.

I see this pesky peanut-butter-sandwich-in-the-napkin syndrome running rampant in the realm of feminine spirituality. That’s why, today, I want to tackle it head-on in episode 3 of our podcast mini-series, “Disrupting the Divine Feminine.”



You have the whole setup: the color-coded chakra candles, the crystals by your bed, the goddess cards, the recycled yoga mat. Oh! And let’s not forget– Mercury Retrogrades mapped out in your planner through the rest of the year. You’ve changed your external environment to be more harmonious and “Zen,” but, inside, do you really feel more whole ?

In today’s SHE Talk, I discuss:

  • How spiritual fads are making us overly superstitious (and are yet another form of hiding behind masks)
  • Why the practice of subtracting (rather than adding more rituals, more stuff) holds the key to peace-of-mind and personal power
  • How moon cycles, periods, astrology, etc. have become more ways that we give our power away
  • The ritual that will reveal the freedom and connection you’re really seeking (if you actually do it)

Listen to “Disrupting the Divine Feminine: Are Rituals Your New Rules?” here:

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I warned you that I’m not pulling punches anymore!

Are you ready to stop hiding and start partnering with the power that is already (always) pulsing inside you?

Now, imagine: what if everyday you actually connected with your source rather than skirting around it?

Revolutionary, right?

Simple, direct, bare-bones practices that connect you to the truth of who you are live at the heart of my flagship program, The SHE School 2018– now open for early registration for a very short time.

During each month of our 9-month journey, I’ll unfold a new facet of a 2,500-year-old meditation practice for you to take on. This is no fad. It’s tried-and-true technology to plug you into the power within that (literally) creates worlds.

You won’t leave this course with more spiritual accoutrements. You’ll leave with a rock-solid daily practice that will finally give you the courage to face yourself head-on and, from there, create the most expanded vision of your life possible.




Hello, beautiful. I’m Sara: a teacher of feminine spiritual and empowerment, author, and founder of The Way of the Happy Woman. I’m also the leader of The SHE School and the SHE Yoga & Meditation Teacher Training. Here’s the truth: I don’t want to be your guru. But I am wholeheartedly devoted to guiding women back to their own, inner wisdom, through feminine spiritual practices, yoga, meditation, and a whole lotta love (and guts). This work is my truest calling and greatest joy. I’m so happy to have the chance to share it with you.

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