Several years ago I needed to make a big decision. In many ways, I’m now living the repercussions of what I chose then.
One of the many things I’m learning as I grow older is that regret is natural. While I deeply trust my life’s journey, I wish I’d approached that decision differently, given who I am and what I know now. Hindsight is, indeed, 20/20.
Where I went off course then was when I looked to others to help me make that decision. One of my mentors at the time advised me to consult with several different intuitives, sit with what they each said, and then feel into what was true for me.
I can see the wisdom in that approach, but what happened was that all those “experts” sharing their views of my life left me really confused. My mind got all tangled up, like a knotted gold chain that’s frustratingly hard to undo.
What I wish I’d chosen for myself, and what I wish my former mentor had advised me to do is: Go away for a few days or a week. Sit quietly with yourself and nature. Stay away from your phone, computer, work, and conversations with other people. Be silent. Stay close to our heart. Talk to God and listen. Be brave enough to hear and accept what is really true.
Because I’ve stumbled so much as a result of seeking so many external opinions (through intuitives, astrologers, healers, etc), I don’t do that anymore. And, if I do, it’s very rarely–and with great discernment.
However gifted someone is, her intuition about you is just that. Hers. She’s still going to see you through the vantage point of her life. To some degree, her perspective is going to be a projection onto you.
This is why the safest and most accurate expert on your life is YOU. No one knows you as well as you know yourself.
It’s much wiser to invest in honing your own intuition than to hire others for theirs. The former will serve you faithfully for your entire life.
It’s like the Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu instructed, “Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach him how to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.”
I know it can be annoying sometimes when women in my programs, like A Year of SHE and The SHE Leadership Circle, ask me a question. They want to know what I think about something, or what I advise them to do.
I always turn their question around, ask them to pray about it, and then to let me know what they hear.
My opinion isn’t going to serve them. What will, however, is me coaching them to listen to the voice of Truth within their own hearts.
In fact, I created these programs to train women to do this– and to do it well. Because the power is never “out there.” It’s only and always “in here.”
Whether it’s how much to charge for your services, what kind of structure to use for your retreat, or where you should live, your intuition (being your bridge to Divine intelligence) will tell you what you need to do.
Just like a sunflower seed has programmed within it all it needs to become a beautiful flower, so too do you have everything you need inside to flourish as the woman the Universe created you to be. But you won’t fulfill your destiny if you don’t get still and listen to what you should do next.
Today on the podcast, I’m sharing an excerpt from a conversation I had with a friend and intuitive coach, Julie Cobb. It’s called “How to Be More Intuitive,” and it’s one of the over two dozen guest teacher interviews in A Year of SHE: A 12-Month Women’s Spiritual Practice Community.
This conversation was a favorite amongst the women in this year’s program, and I know you will get a lot out of it, too.
Welcome to Dakini’s Den #2: How to Be More Intuitive:
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And if you’re ready to stop outsourcing your power and guidance to others (either in your personal life or in your career), I’m teaching you how to “fish” this year in A Year of SHE & it’s mastermind component The SHE Leadership Circle.
Early registration, with gifts and generous discounts, is open until this Friday, November 16. Then, our year-long journey begins on January 1, 2019!
I’d love to support you in building rock-solid intuition and living that Truth in the year ahead.